Home at Last


Did I have a GREAT trip to Arizona?

Is this the face of a tyrant?

You bet. No cancelled flights. No runway delays. And no wrong turns. Yay. I’ve been dying to get out of the house, too …kind of like Rollie, the little potato rocket pug I had the pleasure of doggie sitting.

He loves outside! I love his cuddles. And my kiddos loved taking a Las Vegas break from the rigors of a startup business. Yes, my oldest and youngest are wrangling a startup. We like challenges in this family. Work hard. Play harder.

Tired eyes, crazy hair, and a mask to hide the rest!

In the absence of grandchildren, young Master Roland–Rolando if you’re in a mood–put me through my paces. Not sure I could handle actual little people running around. Puppies are exhausting. (I’ve reached that play hard, poop out harder stage. LoL.) The wee spud took plenty of naps. Me, too. Easy enough to do in a sun drenched yard with no one the wiser. I miss his conspiratorial snorts already.

What have you been doing during 2020 zombie-time? Digging into a new business? Visiting family? Indulging hobbies?

Delicious to the touch!

I just delivered the crochet blanket I’ve been working on forever, too. Homemade gifts aren’t rushed. If you like this one made of Bernat Velvet Yarn, click the picture for the pattern available at Yarnspirations. The plush yarn is a joy to work with and heats your lap while you work. My computer is pulling that duty now but its time for bed. Jet lag has to end.

Write on!



Dishing with Di

Dishing with Di: Home is where you hang your heart!


Follow that flank steak!

America is a mobile nation.  We’re a people of wanderlust.  The reasons why vary.  Some are sound, some forced on us, often as a matter of survival.  Many tribes of the first people of America roamed along with the game they needed to feed themselves.  The Pilgrims braved an ocean voyage to get here, and pioneers moved ever westward to see what was over the next hill, the next valley.  Some wanted the adventure, some were seeking riches.  For the most part, all sought a better life.

Mainers are a slightly different breed.  Don’t get me wrong. Mainers want adventures, riches, a better life, and tend to find it–they make it in their own backyard.  Mainers sink their roots deep and rarely let go.

Try keeping your floors clean in a sod house!

My maternal great-grandfather had a severe case of wanderlust.  He was born in Maine.  As a young man he traveled to Ohio, married a local beauty, and off they went to Nebraska–by oxcart.  Their first two children were born there in a sod house.  Next they moved to another sod house in Colby, Kansas where they had two more children. 

I suspect great-grandmama was pregnant on the return to Maine since her fifth child, my grandmother, was born 16 months after her fourth.  They stayed put at least another six years as my Gram’s baby brother was born in the same town as she.  But great-grandpa still had itchy feet, and while he kept the family in Maine, he moved them a couple more times until he finally settled at the farm where I currently reside.

The farm is under the stewardship of great-grandpa’s grandson who was born and raised here.  Next door is my mother’s cousin, born and raised on the farm Gram’s baby brother owned.  That’s 94 years on the same parcel of land.  Another cousin, once or twice removed but dear to my heart, lives within two miles of the house where she was born and raised.  A childhood friend has always lived within a twenty mile radius of where she was born.  Another cousin lives in her grandmother’s house, around the corner from where she grew up.

You get the idea; once those roots are sunk, they go deep.

So, what’s an Oregon girl doing in Maine?           

I asked myself just that when it seemed Spring had forgotten New England last year.  When the humidity of summer turned my brain into a gelatinous mess, I begged the question again.  And, yes, I’ve experienced summer in the South.  Still, humid weather is rare in Oregon, especially in the southern part that’s been home to me for the majority of my life.

The boy next door–hello!

But I started life in Maine.  I was born in the same city as McDreamy actor Patrick Dempsey.  A couple decades before his time, but what’s a few years. Thirty IS just a number. LoL.  But by the time I was two, my dad had gotten a job in Boston, MA.  He went past Harvard on his way to work each day.  Paul Revere’s house was around the corner; Faneuil Hall a couple blocks away, as well as Breed’s Hill. 

Before all that history could sink in, Dad was transferred to Pasadena, CA, home of the Rose Bowl, and off we went. The Rose Parade occupied most of the city throughout the year, land of palm trees, and non-snowy winters.  I never became a typical SoCal girl.  Never surfed, didn’t speak valley, but I did learn to drive on those crazy freeways, which are even crazier today.

Married, with children, and after vacationing in southern Oregon my husband thought we should move there.  I thought we should move to Maine.  (What did I say about Mainers?) But Oregon became my home and I love it.  We had a few acres where we raised yearling steer, fattening them up over the summer on the rich grass of our pasture.  Not only did I learn to install irrigation pipe, but how to balance and move those 40 foot suckers to water that pasture.  I gardened and canned and loved the view of orchards spread around me.  And, realized much of my life reflected my Maine roots.

When in Maine make tennis racquets!

I’m happy with my hands in the dirt, be it growing something edible or food for the eyes and soul.  Sure, many of those who came before me had other occupations.  My great-uncle–C.A. Thompson– ran a hand-made wooden tennis racquet factory.  (The building still stands, housing a craft store!) A grandfather, uncles, and cousins who worked in the paper mills.  A grandfather and great-uncle who delivered mail.

The Rogue River

Oregon often makes me think of Maine, with much higher mountains. We have four actual seasons, with some slight differences. 

Spring comes in March, just like the calendar says so my favorite flower, lilacs, bloom a month earlier than in Maine.  Summers can be blistering hot, but dry.  All too often, too dry as noted by the number of wildfires.  Fall is gorgeous with clear blue skies on warm days, cool nights bringing a taste of frost, and leaves turning lovely colors.  Winters are rainy and cold (a matter of perspective!) with a touch of snow now and then.  There’s always snow on the mountains surrounding the Rogue Valley, having it on the valley floor is another matter with its own set of problems.  The snow doesn’t last for months and we never have to endure Mud Season.

People wave to each other as you pass by.  Neighbor helps neighbor.  Community activities bring us together.  Just like in Maine.  Some have deep roots in the West, but it’s a fact they’ll never be as deep as the East.

“MY” old house!

My daughter grew up in Oregon.  My grandchildren were born there.  It is home.  So, why am I 3,300 miles away? This was the first move that was my choice.  Sure, I bought a house after my divorce, but I remained in the area that was home.  People talk about bucket lists, and living in Maine was on mine. 

Moving to ME for ME!

I’d thought about it for over 40 years.  Could I rely on reincarnation to make that dream come true?  Seemed a better idea to take the chance and do it now.  You’re more apt to regret something you didn’t do, than something you did.

Moving across the USA I’ve connected with a network of cousins.  I’m learning more about those who came before me.  Discovering  the joy of driving down a twisty road with autumn leaves providing a canopy overhead.  Smelling the pines as I step into the woods.  Feeling the salt breeze on my face as I watch waves crash against the rocky shore.  Watching the snowflakes drift and swirl in a winter dance.  Hearing the snowplow making the road safe for us to travel.

Hey, cuz!

Much of that I could do in Oregon, except for the cousins.  Nor had I previously heard a snowplow.  My maternal roots can be traced back to the mid-1700’s.  It is these cousins who have welcomed me with open arms.  Cousins I barely knew and have become very dear to me.  Through them my circle of friends has grown.  Plus, I’ve had time with a childhood friend, time we never before experienced except when tweens.

There’s also the matter of the series I write, Men of Maine.  Never hurts to have a fresh eye, along with the other senses, on a locale you write about. (I wouldn’t say no to spying Patrick Dempsey up close and personal ;^) Still, my heart yearns for those loved ones in Oregon, and I will return.  My roots are spread wide as well as deep.

My daughter summed it up best: Maine is my spirit animal, Oregon is my home.

Write on!

Dishing with Di

Dishing with Di: Multi-published author Diana Tobin reveals the roots of inspiration in time for Christmas.

Diana Tobin–perfect for the holidays!

Hey, Guys. Christmas is coming on like a freight train. My mind is reeling with things to do–and memories of Christmas past. I’m scheduled for a mini-family reunion in December, too. Las Vegas here I come. Bright lights, big city as the saying goes. So much to plan.

And the perfect time to recommend Di’s Christmas romances. Take it away, Di, and tell us again what brought you to pen your two holiday tales:

A few years ago I was privileged to have a Christmas story I’d written published, titled SANTA NICK.  I wanted to share with others the things my family and I did to celebrate the holidays in southern Oregon. 

The fun begins at Thanksgiving at Medford, Oregon’s Craterion Theater Gingerbread Jubilee.  This is not only a treat for the eyes, but also the delicious aroma of ginger and sweets amidst all the oohing and aahing. 

That same weekend the nearby historic Jacksonville, once the county seat, trims the town with cedar garlands, white lights, and a magnificent tree. Victorian carolers roam the streets as you enjoy cocoa or hot cider and warm up with roasted chestnuts.  Kids of all ages want a visit with

Father Christmas and often he can be spied walking about town, his faithful elves following.  For many years a man brought his matched pair of Belgian horses to pull a wagon giving rides around town.  Hearing the bells on their harnesses always brought a smile.

Providence Hospital’s Festival of Trees is usually held the first weekend of December, an annual fund raiser for this place of healing.  Trees are decorated in a variety of styles, colors, themes that can’t help but get you into the spirit of the season, not to mention wanting to try some of those ideas at home.  I twice had the honor of helping to decorate a tree for this event; once for the bank I worked for the year the festival came to Medford.  Again for the Southern Oregon Spartan Jr. Hockey team.  Entertainment, prizes, and a visit with Santa round out the festivities.

Naturally, there are school concerts and programs to attend as well as those put on by local theater groups.  A drive around the valley to see the many light displays homeowners put up is always a must.  The baking, too!  I like traditional cookies as well as trying a new recipe.  Exchanging baked goods with friends while trying not to sample too many at one time is tricky.  Christmas Eve I always baked what was traditional in my family, walnut roll for Christmas breakfast.  This is ground nuts mixed with honey and raisins and rolled up inside a bread dough–a legacy from my Slovak grandmother.

I don’t really have a recipe. (Isn’t that always the way with family traditions?) But here goes:


Ingredients: A basic sweet roll dough, chopped walnuts, raisins, and honey.

I finely chop the walnuts, add raisins, and honey, so it’s a sticky mixture. Roll out the dough like for cinnamon rolls, spread nut mixture, roll up and bake. Maybe 375* @20-25 min. YUM!

We can’t forget the shopping, the wrapping, and placing all the goodies under the tree.

But, I write romance.  I like those happy endings, no matter how much the couple suffers getting there.  So, I needed more than just fun holiday traditions.  Remembering what a friend of mine had to deal with got my writer’s brain spinning.  She was pregnant with her second child when her husband was killed in an auto accident while in the company of another woman.  A woman he was giving more than a lift home.  I had my heroine, Jenny.

Jenny’s marriage was nearly doomed from the beginning when she becomes pregnant.  Impending fatherhood does little to improve the marriage, which is proven when her husband is killed in a car accident while with his latest mistress.  Jenny is doing her best to raise her daughter, Faith, but has to deal with a ditzy interfering mother-in-law.

Getting into the spirit of the season, Jenny and Faith decide to have a fun day in Jacksonville where they meet Father Christmas, aka Nick St. Clair.  Nick pretty much falls for the two females on sight, but Faith’s Christmas wish clinches it: she wants Santa to bring a husband for her mother.

Nick knows he’s the man for the job.  He wants to be a loving husband to Jenny and a father to Faith, but first he has to help heal Jenny’s heart so she can accept the magic of Christmas and Santa.

As for my friend who inspired this story, she, too, got her happy ending, a number of years later.

Earlier this month my second Christmas story was published, CHRISTMAS WISHES, which is part of my Men of Maine series.  Single mother, Claire, wants to give her daughter, Grace, the best Christmas ever by starting their own traditions.  Dr. Marc Baxter is more than willing to help by sharing his family’s traditions, along with some ideas he has for them to celebrate being together.  The cover of CHRISTMAS WISHES shows Claire wrapped in a quilt I made.

Both are available at Amazon now:

I hope you enjoy both of my holiday books and I wish you all the best for the season and the New Year!

THANK YOU, Di. Whether you’re a reader, a writer, or both, there’s much to glean from seasoned women sharing their stories and all the ingredients that make for a complex, satisfying life.

Write on!